10. INFJs are typically better in writing than in verbal communication. If you want to know an INFJ’s true feelings, ask them to write out what they think and feel but don’t expect them to do it, especially if they don’t know you very well.
9. INFJs can often mimic other personality types. Because they are masters at understanding people’s core personalities- becoming someone else can be very easy.
8. An INFJ’s allegiance is no trifle. If an INFJ wants to stick by you, it means they really like you. Never violate that gift, INFJ’s can be dangerous enemies.
7. INFJ’s are like onions. No they don’t stink, or make you cry, or get all brown if you leave them out in the sun to long. They have layers, and only a select few are ever privy to see all those layers. Do not expect to peel back their layers overnight- that can take months, even years before they trust you that much.
6. INFJs are extremely sensitive. Make sure that criticism is handed as lightly as possible and constructively. At the same time if they respect you they will want to please you and prove to you they can take that criticism and become better, although many times it might take them time to work through the hurt of your words to come to that realization.
5. INFJs love helping people. If you’re bad at accepting help (yes, accepting help is a skill), then get ready to have problems. To reject an INFJ’s help is to reject their love, and one of the things they hold nearest to their hearts.
4. They can be extremely stubborn once they believe they are right, especially if it has to do with their morals or values. However, don’t think that just because they are arguing with you, they aren’t listening- many times they will think about what you said to them for weeks and it may slowly make them more open-minded to your opinions.
3. Your energy as a friend, partner, or family member will easily affect them. If you seem unstable, etc., it will soak into them and poison them. It has often been said that an INFJ’s partner has to be resilient, and this is generally true.
2. An INFJ is incredibly complex, so complex they confuse even themselves. They almost always feel misunderstood and ‘hidden’. They will be offended if you pass them off as ‘simple’ or ‘average’. Getting to know an INFJ takes work, so be prepared for that. A lot of gentle enquiry is required.
1. Last but not least, don’t lie to an INFJ! Omitting or distorting the truth is generally looked at as lying and will definitely arouse suspicion in them. INFJ’s have an intuition when it comes to stories that don’t quite fit. Tread carefully if you are hiding something from them.